Domestic Violence Policies are Science-Based Not Gender-Base

The CDC 2015 Report: 4.3 million Men are Victims of Domestic Violence:

Since the 1800s, women, as victims, have had the upper hand in the fight against domestic violence. I have undoubtedly noticed in my research that women call and typically report their cases faster than men, and the federal funding and resources point to them. Wisely, let's carefully consider Abraham Lincoln. According to Michael Burlingame, a history professor at Connecticut College and the prominent author of "The Inner World of Abraham Lincoln," Mary Todd typically used words to beat President Lincoln. Mary Todd was groomed, ambitious, and aggressive in her specified time.

 A more recent case of an innocent man being abused is precisely that of Tampa Bay Buccaneers linebacker Geno Hayes. In 2009, he was stabbed by his 19-year-old girlfriend, Shevelle Bagley, with a pair of scissors after a compelling argument. She faced charges of aggravated battery with a lethal weapon, but if the shoe was on the other foot, Mr. Hayes may have been charged with attempted murder.

Women victims typically have many resources and laws to aid them in beating convictions, such as the Violence Against Women Act, which completely covers and gives them the upper hand regarding domestic violence and the legal system. The Act typically provides funding in established orders to train law enforcement on one side of domestic violence, as if men don't coexist in this epidemic. I heard Mildred Muhammad, the DC Sniper's wife, state, "My father was killed and set on fire by a woman that was not his wife." This has been a concern for many men since the beginning. The unique issue is that men didn't report their cases then, and they aren't inclined today to report their cases.

Innocent males abused: According to a 2010 National Survey by the Centers for Disease Control and the U.S. Department of Justice, in the last 12 months, more men have been victims of intimate partner physical violence than women. Globally, men are disadvantaged, compared to women, in at least five areas: life expectancy, treatment by the criminal system, child custody, false allegations of abuse, and college enrollments, according to one analysis (CNS News Blog, 2022). Regarding the global problem of sexual abuse, A Hidden Right of Men Worldwide revealed that "most countries have tended to ignore that males are victims of sexual abuse, perhaps as much as females, and certainly to a much greater extent than is reported or recognized." "High-profile celebrity or not, men, women, and the dear children who typically learn about possible violence from their devoted parents, in most cases, aren't receiving appropriate help and intervention" (Male Survivors Blog, 2022).  

The Men Against Violence Act Fact Sheet (Domestic Violence Wears Many Tags, 2014)

ü  Hold female abusers accountable for their specific crimes by strengthening federal penalties for female abusers.

ü  Specific mandates require that male victims, no matter their income levels, not be forced to bear the expense of their own court costs, protection orders, or rape exams.

ü  Keep male victims safe by requiring that a victim’s protection order be recognized and enforced in all state, tribal, and territorial jurisdictions within the United States.

ü  Increase rates of prosecution, evident conviction, and sentencing of violent offenders by women abusers and innocent men that are being abused by another male (same sex).

ü  Ensure that the official police respond positively to the crisis calls of men who are abused by women and other men (of the same sex).

ü  Ensure that the judicial system properly understands the fundamental realities of domestic and sexual violence by training law enforcement officers, prosecutors, victim advocates, and judges to assist men in same-sex relationships that are being abused.

ü  Properly provide other tools for adequately protecting men and men in same-sex relationships by creating a new federal habitual offender list of crimes concerning domestic violence for women abusers and men in same-sex relationships.

Worldwide revealed that “most countries have tended to ignore that males are victims of sexual abuse perhaps as much as females, and certainly to a much greater extent than is reported or recognized.” "High-profile celebrity or not, men, women, and the dear children who typically learn about possible violence from their devoted parents, in most cases, aren't receiving appropriate help and intervention" (Male Survivors Blog, 2022).   

The Men Against Violence Act Fact Sheet (Domestic Violence Wears Many Tags, 2014)

ü  Hold female abusers accountable for their specific crimes by strengthening federal penalties for female abusers.

ü  There is a specific mandate that male victims, no matter their income levels, not be forced to bear the expense of their own court costs, protection orders, or rape exams.

ü  Keep male victims safe by requiring that a victim’s protection order be recognized and enforced in all state, tribal, and territorial jurisdictions within the United States.

ü  Increase rates of prosecution, evident conviction, and sentencing of violent offenders by women abusers and innocent men that are being abused by another male (same sex).

ü  Ensure that the official police respond positively to the crisis calls of men who are abused by women and other men (of the same sex).

ü  Ensure that the judicial system properly understands the fundamental realities of domestic and sexual violence by training law enforcement officers, prosecutors, victim advocates, and judges to assist men in same-sex relationships that are being abused.

ü  Properly provide other tools for adequately protecting males in same-sex relationships by creating a new federal habitual offender list of crimes concerning domestic violence for women abusers and men in same-sex relationships.

For the last 10 years, DVWMT has been bringing awareness to male victims of domestic violence and sexual violence by:

ü  Domestic Violence Wears Many Tags has ensured that male victims in same-sex relationships or not typically have access to case consultation and support services needed to achieve safety.

ü  Specific case consultation—helping males properly understand their case(s) and the key importance of carefully documenting the possible abuse Promptly having a creditable witness can make all the difference in the cases of males in same-sex relationships.

ü  One-on-one counseling—generously assisting with their emotional and mental health by reprogramming the amygdala to reason about what's really going on and respond to abuse using their prefrontal cortex.

    Males are being abused and told not to cry, not to seek help, or that they deserve the abuse. No one deserves abuse, and women and men (in heterosexual or same-sex relationships) should be treated equally. DVWMT Men Against Violence Act should be given close observation. Males are suffering in silence; I desperately hope households and communities will get involved by gently encouraging them to speak out against violence.

    Felson, R. B., & Pare, P. (2005). The reporting of domestic violence and sexual assault by nonstrangers to the police. Journal of Marriage and Family, 67, 597–610. (Authors analyzed data from The National Violence Against Women Survey and found that ‘‘male victims are particularly reluctant to report assaults by their female partners.’’ Reasons for nonreporting include: fear of reprisal, thought that police could do nothing to help and charges would not be believed.).

    Wilson, M. I. & Daley, M. (1992). Who kills whom in spouse killings? On the exceptional sex ratio of spousal homicides in the United States. Criminology, 30, 189–215. (Authors summarize research which indicates that between 1976 and 1985, for every 100 men who killed their wives, about 75 women killed their husbands. Authors report original data from a number of cities, e.g., Chicago, Detroit, Houston, where the ratio of wives as perpetrators exceeds that of husbands.)

DVWMT is in partnership with The Domestic Abuse and Violence International Alliance – DAVIA — consists of 67 member organizations from 24 countries in Africa, Asia, Australia, Europe, Latin America, and North America. DAVIA seeks to ensure that domestic violence and abuse polices are science-based, family-affirming, and sex-inclusive. http://endtodv.org/coalitions/davia/

Reference:

The #MeToo for Men, Male Survivors Blog  https://mynation.net/voice/un-men/

CBN News Blog, retrieved 2022 https://www.cnsnews.com/commentary/edward-e-bartlett/human-rights-day-why-has-decades-long-quest-gender-equality-eluded-men

Department of Justice (2010). National Survey for Centers for Disease Control (CDC)

Philip W. Cook is the author of Abused Men—The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence (Preager second edition 2009). He represents in addition to the author with Tammy Hodo, Ph.D., of the recently released When Women Sexually Abuse Men (Prager/ABC-Clio June 2013)

References Examining Assaults by Women on Their Spouses or Male Partners: An Annotated Bibliography. June 2004. Sexuality & Culture 8(3):140-176, DOI: 10.1007/s12119-004-1001-6.

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